Minisode: Mandi’s Mom Goes Viral: When to Speak Up (and When to Stay Quiet)

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May 27
3 min read

We’ve all been there: sitting in a meeting, chatting with a friend, or trying to navigate a tricky moment at work or home – when something pops into our head and we’re this close to saying it out loud. But… should we?

In this week’s Adventures in Business mini-episode, Mandi and Amani dive into their six-second video that unexpectedly went viral on TikTok. It wasn’t the production value or a trending dance that caught attention – it was 3 simple, wise questions from Mandi’s mom, Kathy K:

“Does it need to be said? Does it need to be said by me? Does it need to be said by me right now?”

These three short questions struck a nerve online. So naturally, they wanted to unpack the meaning behind them and how they apply in both business and life.

The Power of the Pause

For Mandi, the challenge is real: she's a self-proclaimed “blurter” who feels like holding back is almost dishonest. But over time, she’s realized that speaking up doesn’t always mean speaking wisely.

Amani, on the other hand, tends to hold back – sometimes too much. He’s learned through experience (and a few tough conversations) that there’s power in timing. Speaking from a place of calm rather than emotion can make all the difference.

Together, they explore how this question – does this need to be said – can act like a pause button. It gives you space to reflect before reacting.

Does This Need to Be Said?

In the business world, timing and delivery can be just as important as the message itself. Mandi shared how in committee meetings or sales conversations, people often talk just to talk – repeating points or over-explaining long after the decision is made.

That’s where the question comes in: Does this need to be said? Or are you just filling the space?

Amani added that in negotiations or client calls, knowing when not to speak can save the sale. One extra comment could tip the scales the wrong way.

Does It Need to Be Said By Me?

This is where ego can sneak in. Both hosts discussed the temptation to take ownership of problems that aren’t necessarily theirs to solve.

Mandi reflected on how, as she’s grown older, she’s found value in stepping back – especially in group coaching or collaborative environments. Not everything has to come from her. Sometimes, the group finds the answer together.

Amani agreed, pointing out that in his classes, students often help each other out before he needs to step in. Just because you can say something, doesn’t mean you should.

Does It Need to Be Said Right Now?

This is where timing really shines. Some things do need to be said – but maybe not in the heat of the moment.

Amani shared that when correcting a student or colleague, saying something close to the moment of the action is helpful. But even then, it’s about making sure emotions don’t take over. The goal is to create clarity and connection – not conflict.

Mandi added that in personal situations, she often feels the urge to respond immediately – especially when justice is involved. But she's learning that sometimes, people don’t need her to jump in and defend them. They’ve got it covered.

H2: A Six-Second Reminder with a Big Impact

The reason this short video resonated with so many people is simple: It reminds us that not everything needs to be said – and when, how, and who says it matters.

Whether you're in a boardroom or a backyard BBQ, taking a moment to ask those three questions can save you from unnecessary drama, missed opportunities, and misunderstandings.