Why Is It So Hard to Put Yourself First? | Kim O'Hara

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Aug 5
2 min read

What does it really mean to put yourself first? And why is that so difficult for so many people?

Meet Kim O'Hara

Kim O'Hara is the founder of Delicious Life™, a lifestyle brand that inspires women to slow down, reconnect with themselves, and create more joy through intentional experiences, curiosity, and community. Her mission is to help women stop putting themselves last and start building lives that feel more fulfilling.

Why We Stop Putting Ourselves First

Life has a way of filling every available minute. Between work, family, children, aging parents, and endless responsibilities, it's easy to spend years focused on everyone else.

Kim O'Hara believes that's why so many people lose touch with themselves. The hobbies they once loved disappear. The dreams they had get pushed aside. Even small moments of joy begin to feel like luxuries instead of necessities.

"We check out of source, which is our internal artistry and our internal creativity and really our intuitive knowing of exactly what it is we need to do."

Rather than waiting for life to slow down, Kim encourages people to intentionally create moments that reconnect them with who they are.

That can look like:

Making time for something that simply brings you joy
Writing down experiences you want to have each month
Protecting time that belongs only to you
Practicing self-kindness without guilt
Remembering that you matter, too

Small Acts Create Lasting Change

Many people believe personal growth starts with a massive goal or dramatic life change. Kim sees it differently.

She believes meaningful transformation begins with small, intentional decisions that build confidence over time. Those moments may seem insignificant on their own, but together they reshape the way we think about ourselves.

"It's like compound interest. The more you do it, the more value grows."

Whether it's taking a bike ride, reading a book you've been meaning to open, or simply setting aside an hour to do something that makes you happy, those small choices begin to change the way you see yourself.

According to Kim, lasting change starts by:

Choosing consistency over intensity
Celebrating small wins
Making time for joy without guilt
Building confidence one decision at a time
Giving yourself permission to slow down

Building Delicious Life™

Kim is channeling that philosophy into Delicious Life, a lifestyle brand designed to help women reconnect with themselves through intentional experiences, curiosity, and community.

Instead of trying to build another coaching business, she's focused on creating meaningful gatherings where women can pause, reflect, and prioritize themselves. As Delicious Life™ continues to grow, Kim wants every new event and offering to stay rooted in that mission.

"I don't want a job. I want a legacy."

Rather than creating products simply because she feels she should, Kim wants the future of Delicious Life to grow naturally from the needs of the women she serves.

Her approach includes: