Minisode: Gratitude Without Pressure: Reflecting on the Ceremony of Thorns

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Gratitude often gets framed as something we should do — another habit to keep up with, another mindset to master. But what if gratitude could be quieter than that? More honest. More human.

In this minisode, Amani and Mandi have a reflective conversation about gratitude, growth, and the realities that shape us — especially during difficult seasons. At the center of the conversation is Mandi’s long-standing “Ceremony of Thorns,” a reflective practice that invites us to acknowledge hardship and the growth that sometimes comes with it.

Rather than forcing positivity, this episode offers a grounded reminder: perspective matters more than perfection.

The Ceremony of Thorns: Holding Both the Hard and the Healing

Mandi explains the Ceremony of Thorns as a yearly reflection practice done the day before Thanksgiving. Instead of focusing solely on gratitude, it begins with naming a “thorn” — a struggle, obstacle, or painful experience from the year.

The practice isn’t about forcing silver linings. Sometimes the growth is simply acknowledging the pain out loud. Other times, clarity emerges slowly — through reflection, distance, or shared experience.

When Growth Comes From Difficulty

Amani reflects on the challenges of growing his coaching business — the discouragement, uncertainty, and emotional labor that comes with refining an offer and asking people to invest in themselves. Through trial, feedback, and persistence, clarity eventually followed.

Mandi shares a deeply personal experience of loss, and how it reshaped her relationship with health, community, and asking for help. The conversation doesn’t rush resolution or minimize grief. Instead, it honors the reality that growth often comes from moments we would never choose.

Gratitude as Grounding, Not Performance

Throughout the episode, gratitude is framed as stabilizing — a way to stay connected to what matters when life feels unpredictable. It’s not about denying frustration or stress, but about holding space for both truth and appreciation.

This approach invites listeners to reflect gently, without pressure to “do it right.”

A Simple Invitation

You don’t need a ceremony, a perfect mindset, or even clarity to begin reflecting. Gratitude can be quiet. It can be imperfect. It can simply be noticing.

If you’re in a season that feels heavy, this episode offers permission to start exactly where you are.